This is a guest post by Temmy. To those who have ever wondered if I’d allow guest posts on this blog: here’s your answer. On that note, I declare the guest post open! Enjoy.
Like– an emotional attraction towards someone or something usually based on certain criteria or characteristic that the person/thing possesses.
Love– an expression of a deep seated affection towards someone or something.
The difference between like and love is a murky one. It’s like asking someone if their cup of tea is sweet enough. How do you know it is sweet enough? Who defines sweet ‘enough’?There’s a whole other philosophical network of questions that springs up when one asks a question like this.
“I like you” – Meaning I’m attracted to you, not the way many minds usually reckon with that word ‘attract’, but in a simpler way. It means there is something about you (superficially) that gives room for mutual grounds between us. In other words something I’ve noticed about you which means we can co-exist without problems; it could be the way you speak, your demeanor, dress sense…
“I love you” – Means overtime my tolerance for you varies in likeness: at certain times, I want you, then other times- I don’t want you. I find myself in various emotions I can’t handle but I can’t seem to let you go. It’s like I’m hooked.
When someone says they love you and want to be friends, it means they can tolerate you as a friend but can’t share that deep emotion with you anymore, their feelings are intact for you but they just don’t hold that kind of various expressions anymore.
Love is like the answer to a riddle. Other answers may seem good or clever, but only this one answer is perfect; Love is like the right job, the job inspires you and feels like play, you crave for it, you are passionate about it, it lifts you up and drives you to new levels. When you love someone you are totally yourself with them. Nothing can drive a wedge between you. Whatever life throws at you, you deal with together. When you reach the boundary between like and love, you know you are entering another country. You are beyond newness and infatuation. You know what Shakespeare meant when he called love “an ever-fixed mark that looks on tempests and is never shaken.”
Like is spontaneous; Love comes with time, patience and hard work. If you like someone it means you enjoy being their friend. If you love someone then you want to commit yourself to them. ‘Like’ is an attraction on any level, even friendship. Love is all that, plus long-term commitment. Unconditional love means that love will be committed forever… no matter what… and that’s REAL love. It’s possible to unconditionally love someone deeply and not particularly like them at the moment. In fact, you can expect that to happen at some point, and probably more than once in the relationship. If you stick with it and don’t give up, the feelings will return.
The person who truly loves does so because of a decision to love. This person has made a commitment to love whether or not the loving feeling is present. It is, so much the better; but if it isn’t, the commitment to love, the will to love, still stands and is still exercised.
True love is not a feeling by which we are overwhelmed. It is a committed, thoughtful decision.