The Long Distance Relationship
He’s sure the people at Skype had convened a couple of times to discuss if they should start charging these two account: tayo_adeyele and hadafolake. Initially, a bug in Vectone Mobile allowed her to call him at 1p per minute. Until they found out and blocked it. Calling from Nigeria was expensive. It was much easier for her to buy one of those packages- £5 for 100 mins or something. Funny names they have over there- Lyca, Lebara, Vectone.
At first, LDR wasn’t as bad as they had thought. Although they had to alter their sleeping patterns, it was okay. It was only for a few months. How many months till you see her again? 2 months. Where will you stay when you travel? Hmm…I haven’t thought about that. With her I guess. LOL! You’d stay with her in winter?
His visit went well. No need to go over the details. She came home for Easter too. They were doing well. In fact, he had started thinking of marriage soon- no more 4 years. He just needed to sort things out a little. Do you know how much those rings cost? Folake be saying she’s not all that interested in a ring. If I hear!
School was really busy and she read a lot. Combining that with Internships was not easy but she did her best. She and Tayo were in for the long haul. At least he’s no more saying 4 years. That’s good news. But I’ve decided to do a PhD. How will Tayo take it? Will he join you here? Really, I don’t know. I haven’t told him yet.
PhD?! Things were difficult enough. They didn’t talk as much. She was getting busier. To crown it all, the temptations were building. There was a particular day that all he saw was fine females. Where did they release all of them from today? Are you sure your mind (me) is not just playing tricks on you? *Opens 2 Corinthians 12:9* “Father, that grace that You talked about, please now will be a good time to release it.”
“Please hold on Beverly, I have another call” *checks fone* Incoming call- Flaky
“Never mind, I’d take it later. Yes you were saying…HAHAHA!…“
*One hour later*
“Hi Folake, you called. Sorry I was on a call.“
“Okay. I just wanted to check on you. I’ve been busy all day. Work, school, assignments…“
“Sure. Thank you for checking. Have a good night“
That’s how bad things had gotten. They had become “thank you and goodnight” people. What’s more, Beverly was usually always available. They had met at work when she joined his company 6 months ago. They chatted long at work even though their offices were separated by 4 floors. But you know spending time with someone else is dangerous for your relationship. For once you have something right to say. But trust me, I can handle it. Moreover Folake is busy. I’m just keeping busy too.
That was 3 months ago. He should have listened. Feelings for Beverly were beginning to develop. And it was mutual. He rolls over on his bed and sinks into deep thought “What’s the way forward?”
This story ends here. While many relationships don’t necessarily take this path, they usually find themselves at this point at one time or another, where communication becomes really broken down and they become shadows of their former love lives.
Food for thought:
I wrote this story with certain loopholes in both characters for a reason. This is where the discussion begins.
Proverbs 13:12 “Hope deferred maketh the heart sick: but when the desire cometh, it is a tree of life.”