The Father is always standing there…

On the 7th of April, we welcomed our Baby Zara to the (real not womb) world. Indeed it was a day of remembering God’s awesomeness – how a human being can come out of another human being is just mind blowing. That birth story is for another day.

Anyways, at some point, we started noticing that she wouldn’t fall asleep except someone was carrying her. In the words of the Yoruba people, “owo ti fe mo lara”. That was not acceptable and it needed to be fixed. Continue reading


One year later…

A few days ago made it one year since I carried my portmanteau and moved back to Nigeria from the UK. In January of that year, I woke up and asked myself the question: “Adeolu, what are you doing here?” I had asked myself that question severally in the past but it wasn’t until that day that I decided to do something about it.

The plan was never to stay in the UK after my Masters but one and a half years after my degree, Continue reading

The silly things couples argue about: White or Cream?

Recently, I watched a funny (but true) video on Facebook about the weird things couples fight about. I sent it to my wife, we laughed and picked the ones that were similar in our relationship.

Fast forward two days and we were driving to work. She brushed her laptop bag on my t-shirt and I was like “Ah ahn, you want to stain my white shirt?” She goes, “It’s not even a white shirt – it is cream”. *Begin silly fight* Continue reading

Wedding budget spreadsheet

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This post is in response to some comments that we’ve gotten over time from our friends who will like to have an idea of how much a wedding costs.

Tolu and I being quite techy started off creating a spreadsheet for our wedding budget. Putting down cost helps so that you are not deceiving yourself being overly happy (low cost) or giving yourself a headache (high cost) over arbitrary costs. We used Google Docs so that we can collaborate and edit at the same time.

Here is a blank (no price) Wedding Expenses Spreadsheet to help you get started and give you a general idea of the things a couple will usually have to buy. We recognise that there are different types of wedding planning e.g. couple bearing ALL the cost; couple bearing some cost and family of couple also being involved; so you can tweak it as required.

Life nugget:

Luke 14:28 “For which of you, intending to build a tower, sitteth not down first, and counteth the cost, whether he have sufficient to finish it?”

The Logical bride 2

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1st Love, 2nd Love…

When the stork delivered me to earth the first man i met was simply amazing, still is. He was the definition of love, didn’t have to say it because his actions screamed it. He had to be dad.

Years passed he still remained first love but as i journeyed through life I met The Special One. I had a new lease of life after this meet. He gave me a guide to live my life and as long as i stick to His principles then the greatness that lyes on my inside will spring forth. I’ll never be able to phantom Jesus love for me it’s simply inexplicable. I had to move him up on the Love list because he will never settle for second place in anyone’s life. My dad cheered me on as i took this decision seeing that he also had Jesus as his First love. Dad was now second love.

Then came the lanky, fair man who was simply amazing. He fit the name Love, he couldn’t be first – that’s taken but there’s second and the flurry of questions roll in – the bible says leave and cleave, it also says honor your parents and a host of other things but this left me questions still unanswered, positions still uncertain. Now i know better after God being first place everyone else has a place in my life and each is dependent. Your heart is huge enough to accommodate husband, wife, mother, father, brother, sister, daughter-in-law… The list is endless and you can and will place each person in the right space in your heart with God’s help.

Guys, before you propose…

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In this article, I won’t be talking about choosing the correct ring type/size or about the perfect proposal stunt. Rather, I’d be hinting you on the reality of what to expect AFTER proposal. Guys when I say after, I mean immediately after. Okay, maybe 10 mins after…

So it was, on that beautiful day, that I woke up very early in the morning to make my proposal video and went through the day trying to pull off the perfect geeky proposal. A question was asked that day; an answer was given that day; tears were shed on that day and hugs were given too.

I lay with my face up staring at the ceiling, reminiscing on what had just happened and what the days ahead will hold until my thought process was disturbed when I heard her say beside me: Continue reading

Marriage Isn’t For You

I’m sure many of you may have seen or heard about this going around and I think it’s really great. It helped me out things into perspective and I hope it helps you also.

Seth Adam Smith

Having been married only a year and a half, I’ve recently come to the conclusion that marriage isn’t for me.

Now before you start making assumptions, keep reading.

I met my wife in high school when we were 15 years old. We were friends for ten years until…until we decided no longer wanted to be just friends. 🙂 I strongly recommend that best friends fall in love. Good times will be had by all.

Nevertheless, falling in love with my best friend did not prevent me from having certain fears and anxieties about getting married. The nearer Kim and I approached the decision to marry, the more I was filled with a paralyzing fear. Was I ready? Was I making the right choice? Was Kim the right person to marry? Would she make me happy?

Then, one fateful night, I shared these thoughts and concerns with my dad.

Perhaps each…

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