The three sides to a story


You may have heard the saying that to every story, there are two sides. I think to many stories, there are actually three sides: what party A saw, what party B saw and what really happened.

Let me give you an example from personal experience which you can probably relate to if you drive in Lagos. Driving in Lagos is normally a crazy experience but getting through a roundabout in Lagos with traffic on all sides is phenomenally crazy! People just change lanes like snakes.

Anyways, I was driving back home one evening and on getting to the roundabout, one guy just strayed from his lane, got in front of me and barely missed my bumper only because I applied my brakes so hard. Continue reading


But that was yesterday

  • He broke my heart and went on to marry another lady.
  • I caused her so much grief that I now regret so bad it hunts me.
  • They paid me least even though I was the most hardworking person in the company.
  • If only I hadn’t lost that business during the recession, I’d be wealthy now.
  • If my only source of livelihood didn’t run out on me and leave me to fend for myself, I’d be doing much better now.
  • Maybe if I was light-skinned, I’d have gotten married by now.
  • If only this government created jobs, I would be living the life.
  • How can I compete with people from those countries when I don’t even have stable electricity?

Choose from the list or add yours. Now say “But that was yesterday“.

The truth is that life doesn’t always give you what you deserve (or don’t deserve). Sometimes, you have to take it by the horn. To be successful, you have to rise above you “If only”s and start looking forward.

Phil 3:13-14 “13 Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before, 14 I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.”

Just because the disciples didn’t see Jesus on the 1st or 2nd day didn’t stop Him from rising up on the 3rd day! Nothing sown today is nothing reaped tomorrow.

Food for thought:

Think about it: In the end, it’s down to you to succeed.

Life nugget:

You may not succeed in changing that story today but you have another opportunity tomorrow to say “But that was yesterday”.

I will have gone but it snowed

Today, I decided to stay at home and work from within the confines of my room. My reason? It snowed and there will be “possible” service disruptions. You see, my real reason for working from home was because I just didn’t want to go in because I could do everything I need to do without going in. But when you make invalid excuses, you keep looking for other excuses to back it up.

So while searching for a cover up excuse, I found out that there were actually severe delays on the trains. Why didn’t I take the bus? The roads will be iced and the buses will skid off the road into the bush. How laudable.

Someone once said, and I agree, that we always find reasons and excuses to make ourselves feel better, or keep doing what we are doing. The excuse that “it was on SALE” is the one that works best for us when we buy what we don’t need.

If we are true to ourselves, excuses don’t make it better. Needless to say I still feel guilty for making excuses today (the reason for this post) and this guilt is enough consequence. I don’t like guilt. Next time, I’d save myself the stress.

Food for thought:

Would you still make the same excuse in the face of an extreme life situation?

Life nugget:

He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else- Benjamin Franklin