The silly things couples argue about: White or Cream?

Recently, I watched a funny (but true) video on Facebook about the weird things couples fight about. I sent it to my wife, we laughed and picked the ones that were similar in our relationship.

Fast forward two days and we were driving to work. She brushed her laptop bag on my t-shirt and I was like “Ah ahn, you want to stain my white shirt?” She goes, “It’s not even a white shirt – it is cream”. *Begin silly fight*

Guys, before you propose…

(photo credit- themetapicture.com)

In this article, I won’t be talking about choosing the correct ring type/size or about the perfect proposal stunt. Rather, I’d be hinting you on the reality of what to expect AFTER proposal. Guys when I say after, I mean immediately after. Okay, maybe 10 mins after…

So it was, on that beautiful day, that I woke up very early in the morning to make my proposal video and went through the day trying to pull off the perfect geeky proposal. A question was asked that day; an answer was given that day; tears were shed on that day and hugs were given too.

I lay with my face up staring at the ceiling, reminiscing on what had just happened and what the days ahead will hold until my thought process was disturbed when I heard her say beside me:

…And he cheated on her (final part)

(Photo credit- goodreads.com)

You can read previous parts here: part 1 and part 2.

John steadied himself from the sudden wave that seemed to have entered the place and hit him. He did the necessary formalities and made his way to the room. Hand in head, he wondered how it all came down to this. What were the odds that his “mistress” and his wife were sharing a cup of tea downstairs watching something that was none of their business happening thousands of miles away?

“Mistress”…The word left a bad taste in his mouth. When did he become a cheat? Why did she become a nag because of this child bearing issue? Even more, why wasn’t he there for her? He had started working late just to avoid her. Why did he let anger consume him? Why did he have to resolve to alcohol that night? In fact, why did he even drink so much all his life? And oh…how will he ever face God again? He had let down his guard and…

Discussion: I met Him in church series

(Photo credit- winasheriwisha.blogspot.com)

The I met Him in church series is now concluded (you can read here: part 1, part 2 and part 3). I have had feedback from you guys and I just thought I’d make a compilation of it here.

• Not every one who is in church is in church. The fact that someone attends all the Church meetings does not mean he/she is truly in Christ. It makes sense that the Bible tells us to try every spirit (1 John 4:1). In the end, actions speak louder than words because it is not only by hearing the Word but by doing it (James 1:22-25).
• Plain ignorance: One of the comments I received was

I met him in Church (part 3)

(Photo credit- telegraph.co.uk)

You can read part 1 here and part 2 here.

~The fall~

Even he was amazed at how lucky he was with this one. It didn’t take long for him to convince her that sex between two consenting adults that love themselves irrespective of marital status was not against the laws in the Holy Book. His explanation was based off 1 Corinthians 6. “Paul said you should not take your body and be with a harlot. Are you a harlot?”

As time went on, He had even succeeded in cutting her off from the fold. She had a fallout with her choir leader in Church and he had advised her to leave the Church completely. At that point, he had complete control over her because even for a heathen, he knew there was something about that Word they preach in Churches that is able to pierce through hearts. That wasn’t good for ‘business’.

I met him in Church (part 2)

(Photo credit- love14f.blogspot.com)

You can read part 1 here.

~Bait activated~

Three weeks later, he had been attending all the services faithfully, even the midweek services. It was necessary for her to see his faithfulness. He had waited enough and it was time to make his move.

He put on his jacket as he walked towards the door, purposely counting his steps to allow for perfect timing.

“You first” Ola said.

“Thank you.” She replied as she walked through the open door.

“I don’t mean to pry but when one of the beautiful things about coming to Church is missing, one can get very gloomy indeed”

“How do you mean?” she replied.

Ola continued, “Well, I noticed you weren’t your smiley self today. As someone who’s new in the faith, seeing you always happy gave me hope that I will find the same kind of joy in Jesus but today was different.”

I met him in Church

(Photo credit- miraimages.photoshelter.com)

Another relationship series. As before, let’s discuss at the end. Enjoy.

***

He made his way to the restroom. He had to be quick, it was almost time. 3 stalls, the middle one was empty. Of course. No man would ‘willing’ stand next to another guy doing his business; it had something to do with privacy. But there was no time for privacy. He took his position at the available urinal. He felt like Jesus on the cross, one thief on his left and another on his right. *smug* But he was nothing like Jesus and even he knew that; however, the people of Jesus were good to him. In fact they were so good-

*vibrate*

He removed the thought-disturbing device from his pocket. It was her again. “You no go go Church ni?” he murmured as he dropped the phone near the wash-hand basin and proceeded to wash his hands. He couldn’t help but grin as he cast his mind back to how it all happened:

Lamide & John: Friendship to Marriage

A snippet from John’s post, Boy meets Girl:

With a wide gaze he looks into the future, to put the ring in the finger because he loves her so much and can’t wait to seal the friendship as a union of love that should be forever….

And that’s what they did today: They sealed their 8 year old friendship as a union of love to last forever. I’m not sure if they are the first EIE couple but they are the first 2009 EIE set couple. LOL.

Happy Married Life Lamide and John

Food for thought:

I thought they say the man is usually not smiling on the wedding day while the woman is beaming with smiles. My man here is grinning. Lol. I guess he’d tell us why when the formality is over.

Life nugget:

Proverbs 18:22 “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord.”

Discussions: The woes of a long distance relationship

(Photo credit- fitting-it-all-in.com)

Thank you to all those who dropped comments on the just concluded series: The woes of a long distance relationship (Part 1, Part 2 and Part 3). Like I said at the beginning of that series, the story was meant to stir conversation and discussion. This post will be a compilation of comments and some more.

• Communication: This is key. Communication- not just “we talk everyday” but more about “we talk about the things that need to be talked about”. Folake and Tayo should have constantly evaluated their relationship and should have caught the hint when things started drifting. Since the other person is not inside your head, complaining to yourself is pointless. “There’s no time. I’m too busy”- Just drop that line. You make time for what is important to you.
• Don’t be selfish: If you are serious enough to be in a relationship with someone thousands of miles away, then you are planning for the long haul. In that case, you need to start thinking of your plans that will affect the other person. While we all have our individual plans, like Folake who wanted to do her PhD,

The woes of a long distance relationship (final part)

(Photo credit- polimoli.com)

Previous posts: Part 1 and Part 2.

The Long Distance Relationship

He’s sure the people at Skype had convened a couple of times to discuss if they should start charging these two account: tayo_adeyele and hadafolake. Initially, a bug in Vectone Mobile allowed her to call him at 1p per minute. Until they found out and blocked it. Calling from Nigeria was expensive. It was much easier for her to buy one of those packages- £5 for 100 mins or something. Funny names they have over there- Lyca, Lebara, Vectone.

At first, LDR wasn’t as bad as they had thought. Although they had to alter their sleeping patterns, it was okay. It was only for a few months. How many months till you see her again? 2 months. Where will you stay when you travel? Hmm…I haven’t thought about that. With her I guess. LOL! You’d stay with her in winter?